Now I'm ready to talk about Ken...I first met Ken when I was sent to him for a root canal. Recently retired, Ken's prostate cancer story is far different than mine...but I sought his council as I greatly respect his intellect (although I question his judgement with regard to career choices...why not just get a sign that says "asshole" and wear it around your neck? It's a sign that's been suggested for me for any number of reasons far more personal than career choice! Here's my sign.).
Ken had a PSA of 2 and a tumor the size of a tennis ball undetected until a routine DRE (the fact it was on, and not in, his prostate was the reason for the low score...I think). Anyway, his surgery was lengthy and there were later complications that resulted in an atypical experience...but he has rebounded to become a fierce advocate for men talking about prostate health and having regular DRE's.
A well known author on a variety of topics relating to dentistry, Ken has recently been writing and speaking on matters prostate.
We met for lunch and Ken talked at length about the various treatment options currently available. He also invited me to join him for a regular support group he attends in Columbus. In fact, he had made inquiries of his support group regarding the surgeon I saw for my second opinion and had very positive responses.
Ken shared websites for me to visit for more information, and again urged me to include Lucia at every step along the way...the support group has a group of significant others as well.
Best of all, we laughed a lot about the process, the procedures and the Pampers...excuse me, Depends (had that alliteration thing going there).
The more time I spend thinking about the options, the more surprised I am at the attraction for surgery I'm feeling. Here's my reasoning: for me, and that's important as my decision will only be right for me and should not be considered definitive for anyone else, surgery, which I considered the most radical option, now seems to be the most conservative.
In the event of future problems, my research leads me to believe of the choices in this area at this time surgery provides the most options for treatment; it also offers the best opportunity for nerve sparing when performed by an experienced hand. I've found the man and settled on a course of action. I'm going to talk with Lucia and, if she agrees, it's back to my family doctor to discuss my decision.
Wow...I did not see this coming.
Bill, You've hit on the two most important factors in the decisions you have to make regarding your treatment future.
ReplyDeleteNumber one is to remember that your problems affect others just about as much as they affect you. While you may have the final say, support from the homefront is absolutely necessary to help keep your fears in check. And right beside Lucia, there are a lot of us others there for you.
Number two is to keep a sense of humor about the whole journey. It's the only way to stay calm and rational, and besides, we're all just a little bit crazy in one way or another. Mental attitude is at least as important anything else.
Ken Jones Dentist, Lawyer, and overall nice guy